Romantic Banter

This is Confessions of a Closet Romantic, a  podcast where I celebrate my favorite romantic TV shows, movies, books and talk in detail about why I love them so much. Without embarrassment or shame-mostly. This is Poppy and in this episode: It's all about romantic banter.

Romantic banter is my kryptonite. My knees get weak when I hear it or read it. Sexy smart banter engages the best sex organ – our brains.

My favorite romances are full of banter: clever, affectionate, teasing  – that “I’m singling you out for my attention because I see you as an intellectual equal” thing. It makes me breathless.

Of course the original banter maven was Jane Austen. Lots of classic Hollywood movies have spectacular banter— screwball comedies like Bringing Up Baby or Adam's Rib with Spencer Tracy and Katherine Hepburn.

In this 1949 movie, they are the prosecutor and defense for a woman (played by Judy Holiday) accused of attempted murder of her cheating husband. And on the way to court…

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Usually, in a romance, banter reveals the true feelings—not yet expressed—of someone in the couple —oh I adore this trope. Banter is the best foreplay. Because they’re actually amusing each other and the audience, sending signals, sizing things up, figuring out if they’ve got what it takes to go the distance—beyond the insane sexual chemistry.

My favorite aspect of banter -filled stories is the couple usually overlooks the banter’s hidden message  (I like you, I really really like you like you) because they’re too busy thinking up zingers. 

it’s a great plot device because we see what’s difficult for the love interests to see. It gets us invested and creates excellent romantic tension.

Hey please contact me at confessionsofaclosetromantic.com and tell me your favorite banter filled romantic books or movies because I need to know them all.

I'm sure this will be a multi-episode theme because there are way too many good examples to cram into one episode and new ones pop-up all the time.

I will stick with a romantic story all the dingdong day if it strings me along with good banter.

The very best heroes in these situations are those sweet soft cinnamon rolls with kind hearts who also use their clever words to make the heroine laugh or think or just bust chops and keep her around trying to spar with her… it’s so sexy. 

I fell in love with my husband before we even met—as you know—because he made me laugh, teased me, got to know me, all in letters. I had to wait weeks for his responses as a penpal. It built quite the tension. Oh banter, you seducer you.

Lately I've read some books with delicious banter that’s one long striptease and foreplay for the sexyitmes to come. 

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I must've been living under a rock because the 2011 movie Friends with Benefits has all the banter that I desire. In case you haven't seen it, it stars Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake as NY-based headhunter Jamie and Dylan, an LA-based web wiz who meet when she headhunts him to work for GQ magazine in New York.

From the opening credits my face cracked into a huge grin. it's a montage of lightning fast intercuts and killer banter as Jamie and Dylan both break up with their partners.

Fast forward and Jamie is setting Dylan up in his new magazine job in New York after headhunting him for 6 mos. They develop a friendship because they have incredible chemistry and totally hit it off. they both feel burned by those prior relatioednships, so they decide hey we miss sex, we like each other—why don't we sleep together?

 Their negotiation for sex without strings… Dylan trying to place his hand on Jamie's Bible app and swear to not get emotionally involved… what a visual. At the end of the clip, the montage with their little inventory of sexual preferences and eccentricities? If only we could all sum it up that cleverly.

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 I read that they workshopped the script first because they wanted the banter to be authentic and channel the sparky energy of Spencer Tracy and Katherine Hepburn. They did good—the banter in this movie is off the charts.

Unfortunately the plot falls apart a bit in the third act with a resolution that's just too easy —which is a shame because this film has such a cool tone, is so cleverly written and acted, and then it just…fizzles. 

But the snappy pacing and banter in the first hour and a half of this movie—and the moment where they realize they're falling for each other and actually making love instead of having sex—are really worth the whole thing. Damn Justin Timberlake, you always surprise me with how good your acting is. Your comedic timing is on fire. And so are those abs and that azz.

And now listener Monique brings us a little romance storytime featuring a few of her favorite tropes with a dollop of delicious banter.

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Woo… that tackle? That villain? Reading a romance a day and there are still new romance sub-tropes to explore…?!

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So nice to have your company…until next time, wishing you banter-filled, shame-free romance…!